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The Most Important Person You’ll Meet When You Travel Alone

10/10/2016 by Kristin 13 Comments

The music was pumping at that art gallery in Maputo, Mozambique, the capital city I’d been warned was dirty and dangerous. I’d heard a lot of rumors, but at this point I was almost crying from happiness, clutching my new friend Ella’s hand as we danced in a circle with some of the locals. Their moves were so on point, I was impressed!

It was only my first night in Mozambique, a place that I had planned on visiting with someone else who pulled out at the last minute. I’d been pretty terrified about going to a place I couldn’t find any solo female travel info about alone, at least initially.

I was so thankful in that moment, though, because I knew that if we had gone together, this would not have been his scene. We would probably not have been compelled, the guy at the hostel might not have even extended the invitation, we might not even have stayed at that hostel, the different ways my path could have diverged were almost limitless.

The most important person in the room would’ve been missing, the person who I am when nobody who knows me is around. The real me.

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The friends you end up making in Mozambique

It’s not that I put on masks when I am with my familiars, it’s just that those who know us inevitably do affect the way that we act. It’s usually not even conscious, and of course one must be careful to pick and choose the people who lift us up and bring out our best aspects.

That has always been true, but never is it truer than when in a completely foreign place where absolutely nothing is familiar.

This is not to say that traveling with friends, family, or significant others doesn’t have its value, it does. But the reason why I harp so often on the importance of solo travel is because of moments like these, dancing in a room where nobody knows you, free as a bird.

When I travel solo, I don’t have to worry that the other person might not be having fun at the dance party. I don’t have to stay home that night because the other person doesn’t feel like going out. Conversely, if I feel like staying in, I don’t have to go out dancing. The beauty is I get to make the choice without feeling guilty or forced.

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It’s all up to me. I have the world at my feet

Solo travel means being able to be completely selfish, and though the word ‘selfish’ has a negative connotation, everyone deserves to know what it feels like at least once in life to call all the shots.

When you travel alone, you get to ask yourself questions like,

“What is it that I really enjoy?

How do I want to spend this afternoon?

How do I want to spend the rest of my entire life?”

Sure, it’s a lot of work making all of the decisions on where to stay, where to eat, whether you can trust that person or should you take that train out of town to a brand new place?

Now we could approach this as a negative, always having to do all the work. But this is life! Is it not a gift to be completely in control? Even when things go wrong, is it not an opportunity to prove to yourself what you’re really made of?

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You totally got this!

Instead of dreading those moments that you’ll be alone, think of all of the cool things that could happen!

How many times will someone have a motorbike with only one free see that they could offer to you? How often will people take interest in you because you’re alone and they find it fascinating? How often will they take you under their wing? For me, the answer is constantly. I don’t deny that there are benefits to traveling with someone else, of course there are. But before you rule out traveling alone, think of the person who you will get to spend all of your time with.

She is the most important person in your world. She’s you. And until you really know yourself, how can you be sure of how you want to fit into the puzzle of other peoples lives?

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Grab this opportunity with both hands

I know it is easy to be scared of having to be chief problem officer, chief decision officer, and chief happiness officer at every single turn. But trust me, these challenges will serve you long after the solo travels have ended. You’ll find out what you’re made of, and if you can look at the low times positively, you’ll also know what you’re capable of surviving and thriving in.

Because remember, the most important person in the room is missing when you don’t travel by yourself: the real you. The person who you are when no one is around to influence you. Get to know yourself, find out that you’re more than enough.

You’ll be very glad that you did.

Why is it so important to travel alone at least once in your life? Can you really find yourself through traveling solo? Here are my answers ///// Solo Female Travel | Solo travel motivation | Solo travel tips for woman | wanderlust | solo travel advice | Be My Travel Muse #SoloFemaleTravel
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  1. Christel says

    10/12/2016 at 4:55 am

    ? 2 more months before i’ll travel with myself.

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  2. Danny says

    10/12/2016 at 2:35 pm

    This is one of the reasons why I often prefer to travel alone so much. With social media and smartphones, it’s difficult for us to truly be alone – and be comfortable with our own company. Also, I feel like my experiences are much more raw and vivid when I’m on my own, since there’s no buffer, no friends, no distractions.

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    • Kristin says

      10/13/2016 at 11:08 am

      Totally, and if I want to meet people, it’s never too hard to do so.

      Reply
  3. Ijana says

    10/14/2016 at 10:00 pm

    Beautiful piece! Mozambique sounds like it was an amazing trip for you. I would love to do a similar solo trip one day, somewhere all my family gasps in shock at 😉 I agree that while you don’t necessarily act fake around friends, you still become kind of a unit with whoever you’re traveling with, like it’s always you and your friend or you and your SO. Solo travel just lets you be you.

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    • Kristin says

      10/16/2016 at 1:27 am

      It was such a great trip! Mainly because I was so scared it wouldn’t be and my fears were totally shattered by all of the amazing people I met there. Just goes to show, get out there and don’t let not having a friend along stop you from having a blast.

      Reply
  4. Steven says

    10/15/2016 at 10:27 pm

    A great trip to Mozambique indeed, but do you find any difficulties when you travel alone? and how you overcome that problem? Traveling alone also may little bit frightening for beginners and yes need more effort to convince myself to do a solo trip. Thank u for sharing your idea and love your post

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    • Kristin says

      10/16/2016 at 1:23 am

      Lots of advice on all of that here: https://www.bemytravelmuse.com/solo-female-travel/ 🙂

      Reply
  5. Dave Briggs says

    10/16/2016 at 10:49 pm

    Commendable post. While I may not have the same difficulties as you might face being a solo female traveler, I am also, mostly, travelling alone. There’s a freedom there that is hard to explain and some them you’ve enumerated eloquently here. But also true, that you find yourself when you travel alone same as you find yourself when you started living alone for the first time.

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  6. theTraveller says

    10/20/2016 at 5:46 am

    The real me – Great words! In the hustle and bustle of the day there is no time for “leeway”

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  7. Esp says

    10/29/2016 at 5:56 am

    I love your solo travel posts. I took my first solo trip for two months this year -a single woman in my mid 30s (not for want of trying earlier – people just like to tag along on my trips!).

    I loved it. I loved being fully myself, determining my own destiny, feeling few regrets on the choices I’d made because for better or worse they were MY choices. I regained an easy confidence in myself I didn’t even think I’d lost.

    I loved being entirely dictated by my own whim – staying in when I wanted, being social when I wanted, taking hikes on my own, held to no timetable because I didn’t want one, sitting watching the world go by, not worried about anyone else’s eating/shopping/ exercise/sleeping regime. It was a whole new realm of bliss despite the (really surprisingly few!) downsides of travelling alone.

    Thanks for this and your other posts – it really helped before my trip and I love being able to read these now and smile because I totally get it!

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    • Kristin says

      11/01/2016 at 2:34 pm

      So happy that this helped you to take the leap and travel solo! I feel like any time in life is a good time to start. So well said as well, that it’s easier to be without regrets because when you travel solo you can honor yourself and your needs and make your own choices, and that’s beautiful.

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  8. Nishta says

    12/13/2017 at 5:19 am

    Hello!
    I got really inspired after reading ur blog. I’m just a teenager but I just love to travel, and be a photographer when I grow up.
    So just one question, is it safe to travel alone?

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    • Kristin says

      12/13/2017 at 2:13 pm

      In my opinion, YES absolutely! I have a bunch of resources here about that: https://www.bemytravelmuse.com/solo-female-travel/
      And one specifically about safety: https://www.bemytravelmuse.com/solo-female-travel-safety/
      Feel free to ask any more questions as they come up!

      Reply

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