I often see comments on my posts about solo female travel asking if most of who is on the road are gap yearers and 20-somethings. If I’m in my 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, and upwards, will I be the only one? Will I still be able to meet people and have a good time?
Meet Julie, a self-described not so young woman abroad. She’s a 52 year old retired C-level executive who worked in education in Australia before she started traveling solo. She’s been on the move for 6 years now visiting the USA, Canada, Australia, France, Italy, New Zealand, and Singapore.
In her own words, here’s Julie’s story:
Who are you?
I see myself as an ordinary woman, mother, and now grandmother, with a passion to learn and an interest in culture, architecture and history. I’ve always had a desire to wander the world, but just like every one else, life seemed to get in the way. Others however, describe me as brave, resilient and a risk taker, in some ways I guess I am.
What was the moment when you realized you were going to travel solo no matter what?
I never really thought about travelling with others, besides which, if I was to wait for my friends to make up their minds on where, how or when to travel, I would still be waiting to see the world. I have also never had any desire to travel with a tour group or take a cruise, often the preferred way of travelling as a not so young woman, so taking off on my own was the only way I could see myself experiencing the world.
What misconceptions did you have about solo travel that you now realize were untrue?
I think the biggest misconception about travelling solo that I had was that I would get lonely. I now realise that this was so untrue. Where ever I go in the world, I meet wonderful people from all over, and there is always someone about to share the awe-inspiring moments with. Today’s technology allows me to keep in touch with my loved ones while I’m away and I often share my experiences live with them over the internet.
Where have you been that you think is perfect for solo female travelers?
If you are off on your first solo adventure, I suggest going somewhere where you speak the language. New Zealand, Canada, the USA, and of course my own country Australia are perfect for this. If you’d like an introduction to Asia, I’d suggest Singapore as a destination to start with. Travelling through Europe is also a great solo adventure, especially if you learn a little of the language before you go. And of course Paris is always a great idea!
Can you tell me a story about when you were traveling solo that was just so mind-blowingly amazing that you still smile when you think about it?
When travelling from Torino Italy, back to Paris, the train broke down, resulting in spending 13 hours on a bus. It was so hot, and the bus had no air conditioning or even a toilet. To top this off I was the only English speaking person on the bus which was a test to my French language skills to say the least. At first I thought this was going to be the journey from hell, my feet and legs were swollen beyond recognition from the heat, making the ride uncomfortable to say the least. The French people on the bus with me were wonderful and so kind to me, they made sure I was comfortable, gave me food and water and a few of us stayed awake the whole way, chatting in a combination of broken English and French. What I had thought would be a nightmare, became a wonderful adventure through the French Alpine regions. One that I will never forget.
How did this site help you?
As a solo female traveller, it’s often frustrating how little information you can access just for women. When you travel solo, you often get the feeling, that you are the only person in the world travelling on their own. Be My Travel Muse has not only helped me with information about great destinations to travel to, it also reminds me that there are lots of women out and about across the world, having their very own adventures and that I am really not alone.
What are some unexpected benefits of traveling alone?
I’m not sure that I could actually ever now travel with others. Travelling alone has made me realise how resourceful, independent, adventuresome and capable I really am. I’ve also learnt to trust my gut feelings which helps to keep me safe and sound on my wanderings.
You can read more about Julie’s stories on her blog, A Not So Young Woman Abroad.
Want more? Check out Thia from Indonesia and Courtney from California‘s stories. Want to do it, too? Check out the Guide for solo female travelers.
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Sarah says
Love this, Julie!! Good for you for following your dreams – such an inspiration. I hope that one day I will follow in your footsteps as a solo female traveler 🙂 I went on a tour in the Sahara desert in Morocco last year and there was a lovely French “not so young woman abroad” in our tour. The rest of us has come in pairs or groups but she was all on her own. I ended up befriending her and taking lots of photos for her and she invited me to her home in the alps in France! There’s truly no limit on age – it’s all about bravery to travel on your own 🙂
Kate says
It’s very modest to call yourself “ordinary” and also a bit sad. I think no one should think about themselves that they are ordinary. But I’m totally agree that traveling alone is sometimes more beneficial: you are more spontaneous and open to get to know new people!
Kate
Maegan white says
This is such a good post! I love the bravery needed to branch out on your own after years of routine and self-discipline! You are never too old to travel!
Dawn says
Julie – I think it is awesome what you are doing. We travel with our 3 young kids, so the thought of taking a trip just me is thrilling and something I am hoping to do this year.
Sarj says
Solo travel can be done at any age and at any point in your life – just got out of college or a veteran, single or attached. It doesn’t matter! And yes, it’s a big misconception that you will feel lonely alone. That’s simply not true, you will get a lot of opportunities to meet link-minded people to travel around with or even just have great conversations with! I admire this woman; way to go!
Abbi @ Spin the Windrose says
This is so awesome! I like to think that I’ll still be travelling when I’m older. There’s no age limit on travelling – and Julie is doing a great job of it!!
Serena says
Good on you Julie – you’re excellent. While I’m in my 20s, so many of these personal attitudes and experiences of yours resonated with me – particularly the part about waiting for your friends to make their minds up. Most of the time I really can’t rely on people to join, so it’s true, you’ve just got to get out into the world on your own!
Eloise says
That’s a great article. I hope you inspire women to travel alone, no matter their age. Well done 🙂
Ivana says
I love this article! It is so inspiring to see women who travel alone. And no matter the age! My grandmother is almost 80 years old and she’s planning her trip to Greece 😀
Ijana Loss says
Yes I love hearing about older solo travelers! I’m 20 but I’m really excited to get older actually, I want to be one of those cool old people who have all sorts of stories and go on all sorts of adventures.
Willie Lubbe says
Love this post! Thanks!
diana says
That was very inspiring!
I’m also a female solo traveler, 49 years old, and I’ve visited 99 countries (yes, 100 will be Kyrgyzstan, come July). That’s to say traveling is easier than most think and safe (I’m still here to tell my stories! lol).
We only live once! Let’s make the most of it, girls!
Nicolle says
I love this. I’m currently working in Australia and I told my ex fiance I was going to travel for a few months on my way back to North America and he said, in a clearly irritated tone, “you’re going to be thirty next year remember that” and I literally said “what the f*** does that mean?” he was like “well you know you gotta grow up it’s not cute anymore”. I could not have disagreed more. It is so inspiring to see stories like this about women travelling alone after their gap year age. It’s as if you all sense of curiosity, wonder, and adventure is supposed to die with your twenties and the onky acceptable travel is with a partner. I’m so happy to see people being more flexible with their happiness and not confined to societal expectations based on age and gender. Thank you!!!!!
Kristin says
It’s not cute anymore? K good we’re not doing it to be cute! I think this ties in well too: https://www.bemytravelmuse.com/travel-settle-down/
David says
Male or female, it doesn’t matter. I retired 5 years ago, with modest means but I too got the bug, and Kristen Addis is my guru. Will it be so good in 10 years when I’m 70? Great post, follow your dreams and see the world
Kristin says
Thanks David! Have a blast!