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10 Ways Traveling Will Change You

10/20/2014 by Kristin 38 Comments

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Solo traveling is something I’ve advocated ever since I began traveling, and while I still believe it has all kinds of positive benefits, I acknowledge that any kind of radical life shift, especially one maintained over a long period of time, will also come with drawbacks.

While traveling has taught me more over the past two years about the world than I could ever have hoped to learn without that kind of exposure to other cultures and belief systems, it has also taught me a lot about the world within. Here are 10 ways that traveling has changed me, and inevitably tends to change everyone in a similar situation:

1) It breeds selfishness

Solo traveling narrows down the direct impact of nearly every choice to one person – you. Decisions answering the smaller questions like “what should I eat today?” to the larger ones like “which country would I like to visit next?” all fall to you.. Unless you’ve met a person(s) you want to remain with longer, or are making a more major decision like whether or not to go home for an important holiday or life event, the vast majority of what you do is governed and experienced by you and you alone.

This can make it pretty hard to commit to any kind of relationship because suddenly, you have to start considering the desires of others and can’t be as selfish anymore.

2) It removes filters and exposes you to your real self

Traveling solo, particularly in developing countries, removes most external influences that caused us to make decisions in our lives back home: jobs, relationships, rent costs, image, ads, television, etc.

When you’re in places where nobody wears designer anything, a $3 dorm room is perfectly normal, and street food is a favorite staple, even for those who also come from a corporate background, the B.S. is removed and people can be who they want to be.

People say that traveling makes them into a new person, but I believe it just allows them to be who they’ve always been. Maybe that’s someone who freely enjoys excess, turns into a Buddhist, devotes his/her life to helping others, or a whole host of other lifestyles.

3) You realize you can actually do whatever you want

All it takes sometimes!

So many people say to me, “I wish I could do what you do,” or “you’re so brave,” but what they don’t realize is they can do what I’m doing and I’m not that brave. Anyone traveling solo also knows this to be true.

What seems so simple to me now, but I didn’t put enough emphasis on before, is the fact that we get only one shot at life and pursuing major dreams is not just important, it’s a necessity. Yet so many people don’t end up trying the very thing they most wish they could in life for fear of failure. The whole point is to realize it’s never a failure, but a series of steps forward and inevitably a few backwards.

4) Your profound realizations will make you sound like an a**hole

Any time someone praises you for following your dreams, you’ll be forced to tell them they could do the same thing. They, too, could simply do whatever the heck they want. They’ll stare back at you in disbelief, and you’ll feel like you’re on a soap box.

Then you’ll step down, sheepishly.

5) Friends and family become much more precious

My mom says that these days she sees me more than when I was living in California, only 45 minutes away. Now when I come home, I stay with her, and each year, she has visited me for a week or two during my travels. My best friends from back home also take time off of work and plan group trips when I’m home. A couple of them have even visited me in Thailand (during the coup d’etat, no less).

I’ve also seen friends I’ve met traveling over and over, in different countries and continents. We make effort to see each other because we made lasting friendships.

You’ll meet people from all over the world, and while you’ll say goodbye a lot, you’ll also have the opportunity to hang out with a friend in just about every city you visit. This is an incredible gift.

6) People will rely on you less

By juxtaposition, the fact that you’re always leaving, always moving, and never letting yourself stay in one place for long will make you less of a long-term prospect in many people’s lives. This is particularly true for romantic relationships.

It’s hard to take someone seriously who will always leave, which results in a lot of heartbreak and goodbyes.

7) There’s no cure-all, no perfect lifestyle, and no answer to all of your problems

People think riches are the answer until they become rich, think fame is the answer until they become famous, and think traveling will be the perfect lifestyle change until they realize that no lifestyle is without its pitfalls. It can be a bitter pill to swallow.

8) Home will be harder to find

With so many options constantly presenting themselves, and by returning to the place where you grew up with a new perspective, it will be harder to feel at home in any one place.

This inevitable byproduct of traveling is a double-edged sword, because you’ll end up falling in love with many places while simultaneously wondering if you could ever really settle in one place.

9) If you can’t be a chameleon, it won’t be easy

Master the art of blending in!

Unless you can embrace the differences in each friend group, culture, and overall lifestyle where you’re living, it won’t be an easy road. When I’m traveling, I realize that things will not be as clean, timetables will probably not exist, and the people I’m around will more likely be from different cultures with very little in common with how I grew up.

Back home, I realize that image matters more, and I can’t just walk around without makeup or western-style clothing on if I want to be treated with respect.

Traveling successfully means that in order to fit in and appreciate each place, you have to change a little bit each time. Some would say this means not being true to yourself, but in reality it’s just letting different parts of your personality show.

10) You’ll never be the same again

Normalcy will be almost impossible to grasp. Reverse culture shock will be real. Assimilating to the world of non-travelers, should you ever decide to become one again, will be more difficult than you ever imagined.

In closing, traveling opens a lot of doors, promotes the opportunity to have amazing and eye-opening experiences in beautiful places, and exposes you to all kinds of amazing people. It also means a lot of changes to your lifestyle and sense of self. Like anything it can be both good and bad.

All that said, I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

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  1. Ashley of Ashley Abroad says

    10/20/2014 at 9:16 am

    Really great post. Another one I would add is that everything at home will seem the same- it will feel like you’ve changed a ton but everyone back home is frozen in place. At least for me.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      10/20/2014 at 2:57 pm

      Definitely. Somehow it all seems the same yet everything changes.

      Reply
  2. Charlie says

    10/20/2014 at 1:15 pm

    Hells yes. Many of these ring true to me from years as an expat, especially #5, #6 and #9. Travelling (or more, living in different countries in my case) has made me more confident, stronger and know myself better but I expect, and hope, to find more of #2 and #3 within myself on my RTW trip in January. Great post!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      10/20/2014 at 2:55 pm

      RTW trips are amazing. Have a blast, girl!

      Reply
  3. Kristin says

    10/20/2014 at 2:58 pm

    I really struggle with it too. Finding Berlin has helped but I know I’m at the mercy of the people at the visa office so it’s just not a 100% viable option. Best of luck with you search 🙂

    Reply
  4. Ashton says

    10/20/2014 at 6:52 pm

    Hey Kristin, always cool to see how travel affects others. I’m sure we’ll cross paths somewhere in the world. Best to you!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      10/21/2014 at 8:02 am

      …and to you!

      Reply
  5. Christie says

    10/21/2014 at 2:15 am

    This is such a great list. Although I am not travelling solo, so many of these resonate with me. Particularly #1, I’m learning that I can be really selfish when travelling with my partner and its totally something I need to work on!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      10/21/2014 at 8:02 am

      I do as well!

      Reply
  6. Franca says

    10/21/2014 at 5:03 am

    It’s so true that once you start travelling it’s hard to think at a particular place as home, at least it is for me. Me and Dale have been on the road for more than 2 years with no intention to stop any time soon, but we would like to have a base where we can return to, the problem is where?

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      10/21/2014 at 8:01 am

      I have a few places that could be a base, at least I think so. Testing my theory!

      Reply
  7. Kristin says

    10/21/2014 at 8:00 am

    I love that about it, too. The way it presents challenges but also builds the kind of person who can overcome them.

    Reply
  8. Megan says

    10/21/2014 at 5:57 pm

    I was going to list the points that jumped out at me but then I realised that would be all ten! Although I’ve had some personal experience with #4 lately. Opps.
    I was about the send the link to a friend who’s in the “should I travel or shouldn’t I” boat so she know’s just what’s in store (and how awesome it is), but I think only people who have experienced this themselves really understand.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      10/24/2014 at 9:43 am

      She definitely should do it!

      Reply
  9. Nichelle says

    10/23/2014 at 6:04 am

    Great post! There are really good changes and not so good ones about long-term travel. But at the end of the day, it’s you who decide how you are gonna react with those changes.

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    • Kristin says

      10/24/2014 at 9:37 am

      Definitely

      Reply
  10. Sand In My Suitcase says

    10/23/2014 at 8:35 am

    So true about how friends and family become more and more important – they ground us :-).
    We find that each time we return from a trip, we examine our daily lives back home and try to make some personal changes that would make us happier (e.g., after Europe, do we want to live right in the city where we can walk everywhere rather than someplace where we need a car?)

    Reply
  11. Fabiana says

    10/24/2014 at 5:45 pm

    Great post! I might do a similar one on my blog.

    Reply
  12. Rose says

    10/25/2014 at 4:23 pm

    Hello Kristin! I’ve been following your blog and it’s been incredibly inspiring. I have a question, I noticed earlier on in your blogging career, you used a pseudonym called Ava Apollo. What was the reason behind this and why did you decide to go back to your real name? Thank you!

    Reply
  13. Renuka says

    10/26/2014 at 3:17 am

    Nice read! Travel definitely brings a positive change in an individual. In my case, it has made me more tolerant of life. I have learnt to value life more, value people more. I have learnt to be less emotional and more practical. 🙂 Most of all, I have become a better person.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      10/26/2014 at 4:32 am

      I really agree with that a lot. I have more compassion and more easily tolerate others who might slightly annoy me without meaning to.

      Reply
  14. Stephen & Jess says

    10/26/2014 at 5:47 am

    Great post – thanks for sharing you stories.

    Do you ever find that sharing too many stories of travel with friends can lead to an almost ‘boasting’ feel? Even though you aren’t purposely trying to boast and instead just wanting to share your stories. [Btw just talking generally – not pointed at anyone in anyway :)]

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      10/26/2014 at 6:08 am

      I guess that’s why I kept this blog in the first place, because those who want to know will come here to read it, and those who don’t aren’t obliged to hear my stories. I find that those who are genuinely curious will ask specific questions and those who aren’t will just say things like “how was your trip?”, and all they really want to hear is, “it was good.”

      Reply
      • Stephen & Jess says

        10/27/2014 at 3:10 am

        That’s so true, totally agree with you and I think that is why we started our blog. Never thought about the whole ‘how was your trip’ thing.

        Reply
  15. Lily Lau says

    10/29/2014 at 12:29 pm

    You’re right… it’s incredible how travelling changes you so much until making you a complete different person. Even the loved ones change, and you consider others your family. That’s sad for the ones who stay home and see how others could achieve in days what they had to work for years and years of friendship and patience. It’s unfair, but true. Nice post.

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    • Kristin says

      10/29/2014 at 2:39 pm

      I definitely grew a lot more this year and learned how to let go, but there are probably also things where I took a step backwards since the nature of relationships changes when moving around so quickly. It’s an interesting concept and I am learning more about myself all the time as a result.

      Reply
  16. Oliver says

    11/02/2014 at 4:33 am

    I really like your blog and especially this article motivates a lot! Someday I’ll give it a try for myself. Keep it up! I just hope you dont turn into a loner 🙂

    The pink suit guy

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      11/02/2014 at 4:37 am

      It’s impossible to be a loner when you have friends all over the world 🙂
      Thanks for the kind words.

      Reply
  17. Katie says

    11/02/2014 at 6:45 pm

    It has definitely made me more confident, and I noticed it when I went home for the 1st time. Making all those decisions instead of letting others do it for me made me a lot more comfortable with the prospect of dealing with the outcomes, which were not as scary as I had initially thought.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      11/03/2014 at 12:54 am

      That’s so true. Knowing that you’re in charge makes it less scary even though it seems like the opposite would be true.

      Reply
  18. Ryan Biddulph says

    11/04/2014 at 4:28 pm

    Hi Kristin,

    I went from shy, struggling, largely not too happy guy to someone who’ll be speaking at NYU in a month. I went from unknown blogger to a guy whose eBooks have been endorsed by a New York Times Best Selling Author. Your post is spot on, and I know first hand that traveling changes your life like you couldn’t believe!

    Nobody knows how travel will change them but if you’re open and willing to be uncomfortable you’ll slowly free yourself. You’ll become who you were born to be, because you’ll stop being the person your friends and fam want you to be, and you’ll be you. At home in NJ, I was Ryan the office worker, then Ryan the pier guard, who watches sports and hangs out on the weekends.

    Traveling all over the world my ego view of self was shattered. I became who my intuition told me to be, which is why I’ll be speaking at NYU, teaching folks how to live the digital nomad lifestyle, and it’s also why I’ve received the humbling endorsements from a world renowned author and biz coach.

    LOVING each of your points Kristin. Tweeting this from Bali 😉 Thanks for sharing!

    Ryan

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    • Kristin says

      11/05/2014 at 5:02 am

      That’s awesome, Ryan! I completely agree that without external influences from people who have always been in your life, you suddenly shed the fear of being yourself, which is wonderful and essential. Enjoy Bali 🙂

      Reply
  19. Dana (Wanted Adventure) says

    11/24/2014 at 7:21 am

    I could relate to several of these but especially number 8! I always try to explain that I live in this limbo-life where no matter where I am, I’m missing my “other” home somewhere out there in the world and when I’m at one of those homes I’m at the way time missing not traveling around somewhere! lol

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    • Kristin says

      11/24/2014 at 7:45 am

      Totally! you leave pieces of yourself behind everywhere. It’s the beauty of having home everywhere but the difficulty of not really feeling at home anywhere.

      Reply

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