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25 Promises for All the Single Ladies Who Travel

03/07/2019 by Kristin 35 Comments

This is for all of the single ladies who travel. 25 promises to keep because you're worth it, and this world is yours to explore!
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This is for all of the single ladies who travel. 25 promises to keep because you're worth it, and this world is yours to explore!

This is for all of the single ladies who travel. 25 promises to keep because you're worth it, and this world is yours to explore!
Dear solo female travelers, this is for you.
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This is for all the single ladies who travel. For all the women out there who decided that, whatever the circumstances may have been, that they wouldn’t let anything hold them back from experiencing all of the riches that this world has to offer. I’m talking to you, fellow solo female traveler.

At times you feel like a rock, unbreakable and steadfast, and at other times, it gets difficult. It feels like nobody around you understands, or like everyone else is coupled off and makes it look like they’ve got it all figured out, and it makes you wonder if you’re being left behind.

Yet I guarantee they’re pining after your travel photos, wishing for your amazing stories with perfect strangers who became friends or even lovers, and wishing they could be as beautiful and free as you. Nobody tells you what to do, nothing prevents you from following your whims, and that kind of power can be intimidating for many.

There’s no right or wrong way to live except for the way that you choose, and traveling alone will never make that choice clearer. To all the single ladies who travel, when times are tough or perfectly perfect, make these promises with me:

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We got this, ladies

1. To smile and confidently say ‘maybe never’ when locals ask when you’re going to have kids.

2. To never be ashamed of our own sexuality, and feminine power.

3. To never forget the divine goddesses that we are. We’re designed to be the givers and sustainers of life, if and when we choose to.

4. To act with grace and respect, but also to take no shit!

5. To hold our heads up high and walk like a man, just so that they know we will look them in the eye, and command the respect we deserve.

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The world is the oyster and you’re the pearl

6. To say ‘no’ without ever feeling guilty or obligated.

7. To say ‘yes’ without ever feeling guilty or obligated.

8. To have the courage to sit on a romantic beach without wishing there was someone else there. Nobody else will make that sunset more beautiful or that ocean more blue than wonderful you.

9. To own your decision to go it alone.

10. To never look at his Facebook during your trip, because there’s nothing good nor nurturing for you on there, girl.

The adventure belongs to you

11. To be safe and responsible and have some damn fun without saying sorry.

12. To appreciate and own the freedom that you have, to acknowledge the privilege you were born with, and to use it to its fullest potential, on behalf of all of the women out there who will never have that chance.

13. To have the courage to go, to trust that the girls who have gone before you have paved the way, and to know that you’ll leave a trail for those who come after.

14. To have an open heart because you absolutely never can know who you’ll meet, so forget what you left behind, and when that’s hard to do, remember why you left it there.

15. To support the local female artisans you find on your journey, because we have more in common than we don’t.

16. To not let fear win, because at every stage of your life when you did something great, did you really feel 100% ready?

17. To remember that even though our friends and family are well-meaning, the choice is ours to make to go it alone.

18. To remember that we are not who we date and are married to. We are the woman who we are when we’re alone, and she’s amazing.

19. To never apologize for being strong, independent, and powerful.

20. To know that a man is not necessary to carry the backpack, navigate the route, negotiate, and captain the ship. To find that, time and time again, that he’s not actually necessary for much of anything.

Take that leap of faith!

21. To embrace loneliness as a chance to form your own opinions, call your own shots, and know thyself.

22. To take setbacks in stride, to find all the strength that we never knew we had, and to embrace new challenges with open arms. Let us find out what we’re made of.

23. To know that whatever happens, and whatever we feel or decide, that it’s okay, as long as it’s our choice.

24. To know that we are beautiful in more ways than just the physical, without needing anyone else to tell us so.

25. To feel gratitude every damn day.

Ladies, you got this. You don’t need anything but you, and the world. The time has never been better and the possibilities have never been more available than they are right here and right now.

It’s time to see the world, take the opportunity and run with it!

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  1. Maricel says

    03/27/2017 at 6:46 pm

    This is one of the many reasons why you’re blog is my favorite, you get me! You’re my homegirl Kristin.

    Reply
    • Victoria @ NatureImmerse says

      03/27/2017 at 8:13 pm

      I start reading your female guide book on travelling and love it 🙂

      Reply
      • Kristin says

        03/28/2017 at 2:35 am

        Yay that’s great feedback!

        Reply
  2. Leah says

    03/27/2017 at 8:59 pm

    Thanks for sharing that and I have been travelling by myself in my mid twenties I don’t wait for somebody to come with me otherwise I would not have been to places I have travelled I meet more people when I travel alone and always meet guys it how you carry and express yourselfand your manners that you earn their respect .as you have respect for your own self. I love to travel alone and in solitude
    Thanks for sharing your blog
    More power to you and the travelers who are alone first time yes it is lonely but you have to focus on your goal and you will get better as you travel
    One time I saw a blind person travelling in the subway alone with walking sick able to go to work riding the subway and he could go to and fro from home to his job and with out fear and I told myself I have nothing to fear to travel alone if I could speak and see where I’m going and if I get lost or which way to go I just have to ask people .
    When I travel by myself Imeet people who are travelling alone too and approach me if they could come with me then meet more people join my company and end up in a group .

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    • Kristin says

      03/28/2017 at 2:34 am

      So true, when you consider how many people survive with such difficult circumstances, doing something fun like traveling alone is not just a challenge, but an amazing and special experience. It’s a privilege!

      Reply
  3. Tess says

    03/29/2017 at 6:10 am

    It can be difficult to feel a sense of community as a solo traveller, but there are so many of us out there doing it. I came home early from my travels last year because I missed people from home too much, then immediately went away again and booked 3 more trips! We just have to remember we are not alone. I need to read your blog more 🙂 Also I think making friends with people who are living unusual lives all over the world is a good idea. I’m housesitting in my home town Bristol, UK at the moment and it’s weird only being surrounded by my home friends who are all working full time and buying houses etc. I feel like the odd one out, and forget why I have chosen this lifestyle. Reading blogs like yours reminds me there are so many like-minded people doing all kinds of cool things by themselves. We are together in spirit, even though we are solo!

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    • Kristin says

      03/29/2017 at 10:15 am

      Totally, it’ll feel like you are the weird one because you’re not living the settled lifestyle and I do feel that way too. The funny thing is the more my loved ones see me growing into this lifestyle and making it my career and happy place, the more they understand and know that I couldn’t live my life any other way.

      Reply
  4. Ijana Loss says

    03/30/2017 at 6:54 pm

    This is perfect! <3 Really the most amazing thing about solo travel is how it puts you in touch with yourself. While having friends or partners around is nice, there's something really special about being in a new place where the only people around are people who have no idea who you are. Maybe so many people are afraid to go somewhere without people they know because then they'll have to examine who they really are, instead of being able to rely on what their friends think of them?

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    • Kristin says

      04/01/2017 at 2:05 pm

      Could be. I think it’s more of not knowing what will be on the other side and knowing that we’ll have to do it all on our own, which it turns out in so many cases is actually a huge blessing and an advantage. The more personal piece I kind of didn’t realize would come but I’m so glad it did

      Reply
  5. Emma Hart says

    04/02/2017 at 2:06 am

    Yes! This is awesome! I love how solo travel can make you feel like the best version of yourself. Yes it can be daunting and unnerving but at the same time, it’s often one of the best experiences we can ever have.

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  6. GG says

    04/02/2017 at 9:47 am

    This is a great post. Too bad it is necessary to do this even in this age, even when traveling in the US. I am a guy and I forget that no guy has to ask most of these questions when traveling or make most of these 25 promises (e.g., I have never been asked when I am going to be a father), although everyone has to be aware of their safety. We guys take it all for granted! We should try better so that we are part of the solution not the problem. I guess though that some parts of the world are much worse about this than others. Even a guy has to be told some of this when traveling alone so this site (among several others) has been useful for me. Everyone needs their space and freedom and shouldn’t ever be restricted due to gender (barring cultural sensitivities as opposed to discrimination). As a last note, I work in an environment with mainly female leaders and see the power/wisdom of femininity firsthand. If properly prepared, women can do anything they want on their own and we guys need to respect that and be more compassionate (frankly, we guys need the help more but won’t ask).

    GG

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    • Kristin says

      04/02/2017 at 12:16 pm

      Wow that’s an incredible observation and I’m honored you shared those thoughts here. I can also understand how it’s hard to be a man in today’s environment with feminism taking center stage and often in such a way that can seem aggressive towards masculinity and men. To be clear, I think the problem is just the collective mentality, not men, but it is shifting and that’s great to see. It’s evident from comments like yours that both men and women want to see more equality.

      Reply
  7. Carrie says

    04/05/2017 at 8:37 pm

    I love this! It’s perfect!!!! Thank you so much for inspiring words. I’d like to go to Poland. It’s cheap travel.

    Reply
  8. Yuki says

    04/14/2017 at 8:13 pm

    Yes!! I love this. I am not single anymore, but I traveled for a year while I was, and I have very similar ideas scribbled throughout my journals. Not being ashamed to say “no” or “yes,” to be brave to sit on that romantic beach and being happy that I was by myself, taking myself out to dinner, being free to do whatever without compromise. I’m glad I had that year, with all its ups and downs. I’m extremely happy with my boyfriend and travel partner, but I’m also excited about my upcoming month-long solo trip. I think I’m excited to remind myself of exactly these reasons you’ve written about. Thanks for sharing! <3

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    • Kristin says

      04/15/2017 at 1:13 am

      So great that you’re still traveling solo even with a partner! So much of this list applies in that situation as well. Have a blast!

      Reply
  9. Mary says

    03/25/2018 at 8:12 pm

    Love this! I needed to read this.

    I’m taking my first solo trip, to Ireland, this summer!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      03/25/2018 at 8:17 pm

      Ireland is awesome and so friendly. Have a blast!

      Reply
  10. Lily says

    05/20/2018 at 1:07 pm

    Thank you Kristin for your wonderful posts, information and encouragement. I have started reading your book with so many good tips. I am middle aged and free again and know that travel is for me. Slowly I am coming around the idea of solo travel, still feel some fear and returning to look at your tours to maybe start off with. I keep reading and maybe start with a few small trips to get a feel for it.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      05/21/2018 at 12:52 am

      I think that’s a fantastic way to ease into it! I had two women on my Peru tour who had just quit their jobs to travel and the tour was their first leg of the journey. There was another woman who was finishing up a year of traveling alone with the tour as well, which I thought was pretty cool! I do also think taking shorter trips to ease into it can be a good idea. Whatever helps you feel more comfortable!

      Reply
  11. Gina says

    08/10/2018 at 10:43 am

    Kristin!
    Strong, powerful and amazing words…..like the woman you are and the women who follow your lead!

    Rock on Solo Sister!
    Love and Light!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      08/10/2018 at 10:58 am

      Thanks Gina!

      Reply
  12. christy dixey says

    11/29/2018 at 9:15 pm

    I am new to your blog, and I am quite honestly hooked–but this posting in particular resonated strongly for me. I needed to read this. Thank you so much for posting <3

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    • Kristin says

      11/30/2018 at 12:51 am

      So glad you enjoyed it <3

      Reply
  13. GG says

    03/07/2019 at 8:55 am

    I posted earlier on this but wanted to add one more thought seeing this again. I like items 18 and 20 on the list. It is so important in a marriage or relationship that one person isn’t “absorbed” into the other. This is SO relevant to many women in past generations (and still hangs on today but waning in the US) who took care of the home and supported the husband’s career. You can nurture and be the support structure, bless those traditional women including some friends of mine, without losing yourself (and they don’t, they are strong, brilliant, and beautiful women who make time for themselves). Otherwise how can one be truly happy. Also, regarding 20, a man is not specifically needed for any of those things (you can have another woman carry the backpack if have an injury as an aside!). A man would be there because he is wanted, not needed. Again, a relationship should be about wanting to be around someone and loving them, not needing them like a dependent or a subservient. Even if you have physical ailments, where you might need help, it should not be in subservience.

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    • Kristin says

      03/13/2019 at 12:00 pm

      Well said.

      Reply
  14. Crystal says

    03/07/2019 at 10:35 am

    YES!! This is the ultimate manifesto and female anthem! Thanks so much for writing. The one I think about the most is how often women are expected to feel guilty or sacrifice our own comfort for someone else’s… so I especially liked 6. To say ‘no’ without ever feeling guilty or obligated and 7. To say ‘yes’ without ever feeling guilty or obligated. Looking forward to reading more empowering posts!

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    • Kristin says

      03/13/2019 at 12:00 pm

      So glad you liked it!

      Reply
  15. J says

    03/14/2019 at 5:55 am

    Fine, but why do you have to bash guys? What’s with the anti-male tone? Men look you in the eye. You are so insecure and jaded if you think guys fundamentally disrespect and don’t take women seriously. Guys are needed, and can actually enrich women’s lives. You can’t just be an island unto yourself your whole life.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      03/15/2019 at 2:06 pm

      I think you’re reading into it what you want to. There’s no guy bashing here. I’ve said many times on this blog that men are not the enemy, and I genuinely feel that way.

      Reply
  16. Lauren says

    03/25/2019 at 7:46 am

    Thank you for these inspirational words. I will be setting off on my first solo trip next month and have had doubts over my ability to do it. Thank you for reminding me that we are strong and capable of anything 🙂

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      03/27/2019 at 11:02 am

      You got this!

      Reply
  17. marvie says

    04/29/2019 at 10:12 pm

    I started reading your travel muse cause it inspire me everyday, I am grateful knowing that I’m not alone who live independently.Yeah I love to be alone and I prefer to travel all by myself. Thank you for encouraging ladies out there that we can still live a life happy and contented without a man

    Reply
  18. Sudha puthran says

    12/10/2020 at 10:40 pm

    Article is fantastic I m a 52 year travel buff at 44 I decided to travel alone as my partner was never interested in traveling i went to leh ladakh despite being on insulin diabetic for 22 years now and also mouth ulcers. U need to take the first step to ho independent

    Reply
  19. Marisa B. says

    06/21/2021 at 4:54 pm

    Wow. This moved me to tears. I am about to embark on my first solo trip and finding your blog is exactly what I needed. Thank you for sharing your words and experiences. Keep it coming!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      06/22/2021 at 12:51 pm

      Aw i’m so glad you found what you wanted and needed here!

      Reply

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